Saturday, July 04, 2009

HAPPY 4TH of JULY

I have to add this also, HAPPY 4th of July!
God Bless America, Land that I Love!
I am so thankful to be living in a country that is free based on our merits! We have fought to defend this land because it is worth defending and it is a beautiful strong place. I am thankful to be living here today!

Follow Up

So I sounded a bit grrr about not being married the other day when I wrote and decided to follow up. The bitter moment only lasted a moment so that's good (except that it comes and goes a lot but often quickly leaves -what can you do).
New thought today from The Five Love Languages of Singles: Love (and he is talking about the language of love used in every human interaction) is [where] requests are more likely to be honored. Responding to a sincere request is also an expression of love. It is doing something for the benefit of the person making the request. Reciprocal love is the fabric of which lasting friendships are made.
Friendships are cultivated and strengthened when we choose to speak each other's primary love language.

Thursday, July 02, 2009

Marriage

"The supreme purpose of marriage is the union of a man and woman at the deepest possible level and in all areas of life, which in turn brings the greatest possible sense of fulfillment to the couple and at the same time serves best the purpose of God for their lives." -- Gary Chapman from The Five Love Languages for Singles

Get this - I'm single. Apparently I'm having a moment - sarcastic or sobbish or blah or why... who really knows right now but I'm in the mood to share my thoughts. :)

Here is a thought for ya, I read the books: Getting Serious About Getting Married, The Five Love Languages for Singles..., I go to the firesides and read the talks. Generally, I do pretty well about getting out there and meeting new people so that I'm not hiding in my hole hoping the right guy will just some how miraculously find me, I'm trying to help him. I'm happy, confident, educated,.... and not bad looking dang it.
SO what am I don't wrong and why can't I find my companion? Where is someone that I will love and that will love me in return that will build a relationship with me and then continue to work on it with me to sustain it throughout our lives as we have a family, own a home, have jobs, ..... Why can't any relationship I enter into ever just feel right for both of us - me and him a the same time?
I'm sure everybody has an opinion because everybody has a reason for me:
"oh you will find someone don't worry,"
"You are too hard on these guys, cut them some slack"
"Don't create things, cut him off, you are too willing to put up with things"
(yes you see a problem with the people I talk to already...)
"When you find him it will all just feel so right that's how it was with me and ____" (Oh shut up)

I'm 26 and when a coworker, father, walked by at work he said, "you guys act like being single at 26 is like having the plague or something." Sometimes I feel like I do have the plague. Everybody has a solution for me, advice on what I should do.
Yes, I don't want to continue to repeat the same things over and over because obviously that hasn't been successful in the past yet, sometimes the "oh don't worry you will find someone" gets really REALLY annoying and makes me want to hit you. If you say this to me and I hit you just know that you have been warned :)

Well that's the thought for the moment and yes I hope for comments and of course your advice.

Oh My Goodness I sound so bitter right now- I should work on that...